Before we go into a relationship with someone we love, we probably must have envisioned so many wonderful things with that person such as getting old together, having kids together and so many other things people in a romantic relationship imagine with their partner. After all this imagination, you wake up one morning and discover that everything has gone down south and you’re like “damn” what happened. Below are some reasons why your dating/relationship never works as planned.
You’re not being realistic
When you fail to look at things as they really are, you begin to have problems in your relationship. Many people still hold on to that fancy Cinderella story as an idea of how a relationship should look like. Well, wakey wakey, you’re not being realistic. Now you expect everything in a relationship to be all rosy and good with the perfect man, the perfect date, and no fight or quarrel in a relationship. When people especially those new in a relationship find that their fantasy contradicts reality, they flip because it becomes a whole new ball game. They begin to deal with the reality of fights and misunderstanding with their partners, potential cheating and neglect. They begin to understand that relationship ain’t all that rosy as they expected, because relationship consists of the good, bad and ugly and it’s this dynamic twist that makes a relationship interesting.
Probably your plan sucks, or you chose an incompatible partner to plan with in the first place
We sometimes go into a relationship thinking we have everything figured out and we’ve ticked all the boxes, but along the line we discover that we haven’t ticked shit and that we really don’t have a good plan. Sometimes you hear people in a relationship saying they plan to enjoy the relationship with their partner and see where it goes.
Seriously that ain’t a plan, because in their head they think them letting things play out is a plan but they never really talked to their partner on what the relationship is going to be like. Is it just going to be sex? Is it going to lead to marriage or is it going to be short term? All this are issues to be dealt with if you want your relationship to go as planned, because you might come to realise that your partner has a different opinion to your plan which can “set your relationship on fire”.
You can’t fight nature
You might have heard someone at some point say “oh well life is just so unfair”. Chances are the person is right, because life is just like an ocean, it flows at any direction and speed it wants and the only thing we can do is brace ourselves through wearing a life jacket. But in truth, there is only so much a life jacket can do. Nobody plans to lose a partner, get cheated on, end up in a long distance relationship , or to fall in love with someone else. Do not get me wrong, it’s good to plan but not everything can’t be foreseen or controlled through proper planning.